The eight reasons why introvert is OK!

by Robert A Henru

Many times, introverts felt that something is wrong with them. This happens especially when they are in the middle of crowd, among the extroverts. Many people are saying that introverts are bad and extroverts are good.
I read a book from Marti Olsen Laney, Psy.D, titled “The Introvert Advantage” and it gives me a lot of insights to be thankful for the introvert character. The introverts have advantages and they are supposed to make use their uniqueness instead of resenting them.
These are the 8 reasons that I have compiled on why introvert is OK!

1. Introverts are not antisocial
The first wrong assumption that people have about introverts is that they are antisocial. But it’s not true! Introverts do enjoy the time with people and especially the one-on-one conversations.
Introverts have social skills, they like people, and they enjoy some types of socializing… Introverts enjoy one-on-one conversations, but group activities can be overstimulating and drain energy.
Marti Olsen Laney, Psy.D

2. Introverts enjoys being alone to recharge their energy
Introverts are like a rechargeable battery… extroverts are like solar panels.
Marti Olsen Laney, Psy.D
Summarizing what Marti said, this is also a key distinction of introverts from extroverts. Introverts are rechargeable batteries who need to stop expending energy and rest in order to recharge, while extroverts are solar panels who need the sun to recharge, they need to be out and about to refuel and recharge themselves.

3. Introverts may not good verbally, but they can become good listeners.
The next time you’re intimidated because you’re not talking a lot, remember this quote:
If nature intended us to talk more than listen, she would have given us two mouths and one ear.

4. Introverts are self-reflective and good learner
Rob from, sharing a great article about networking for introverts. In one of his tips, he mentioned about the strength that introverts must use on learning and improving on their networking skills; that is their intuition and analytical skill. That is a great advantage for introverts to learn a new skill.
Introverts are intuitive and analytical. Use that skill. What is working? What isn’t? Where do you get the most bang for your buck?
Rob (How To Network: For Introverts @

5. Introverts are thoughtful
Extroverts are like lighthouses, focusing their beacon outward toward the world. Introverts are more like lanterns, radiating a glow inside themselves. Marti Olsen Laney, Psy.D
Introverts have lots of thoughts and ideas, many are creative, but many are ashamed to share their thoughts to the world. They are lantern who is radiating a glow inside themselves. What they need to learn is to make their lantern transparent; that is the least they need to learn, the confidence to share their thoughts to the world.

6. Introverts are not necessarily shy
As I explained above, introverts enjoy meeting people, sometimes one-on-one, and sometimes in a group. But shy people are not, shyness is the result of their lack of confidence. Remember that introverts do not necessarily shy.

7. Introverts value being authentic
This might be the reason why the introverts do not like to talk much when they have nothing to say, they are just authentic, they do as who they are and what they believe. That makes them into a person who holds fast to their principle. They are not a people-pleaser, and they have a great potential to become a person of influence, someone who bring changes to the communities around them.

8. Introverts are capable to shine as well
Marti Olsen also compiled some of the public figures who are introverts, such as Emmy award-winning Diane Sawyer, award-winning actress Joan Allen, Julia Roberts, and also Albert Einstein. Here is her conclusion about their life: So introverts are definitely not wallflowers. However, what drives introverts onto center stage is often different from what drives extroverts. Introverts come into the limelight because of their quest for work that has meaning to them, an unusual talent, or extraordinary circumstances.
Marti Olsen Laney, Psy.D

In conclusion
It’s okay to be introvert, turn your introversion into your strength, and turn your limitation into advantages. For example, as a self-reflective and thoughtful person, you can come out with great analysis and creative ideas. Learn to share them with the world; you will not know how much your thought can be a blessing for others before at least you try.

I recommend the book from Marti Olsen, The Introvert Advantage, to learn more about how introverts can thrive in the extrovert world.

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