The Six Secrets of Effective Goals

I don’t care how much power, brilliance or energy you have, if you don’t harness it and focus it on a specific target, and hold it there you’re never going to accomplish as much as your ability warrants.

– Zig Ziglar

Learning to set effective goals – goals that actually get done – can make or break a successful life. While bulldog-like tenacity puts you well on your way, it can only do so much. Although it can counteract deadweight goals to a point, the time will come when badly-crafted goals will overwhelm the most persistent perseverance, and the planner will be stagnated.

When, however, you combine these two powerful elements, strong goals and determined tenacity, great things can be done.

Carefully design goals containing all of the six potent attributes and enjoy the difference.

#1 Specific

Unless a goal is fully understood, it is impossible to accomplish it. Formulating your goals with specific, detailed clarity will make it attainable.

If you have trouble thinking of details for your goal, try answering some of these questions:

  • How?
  • When?
  • Where?
  • To What Extent?
  • Why?

Good Goal

Read five nonfiction books each month.

Bad Goal

Become more intelligent.

#2 Measurable

If your goal is not measurable, you cannot ever be sure that you achieved it. When a goal is specific enough, it will usually automatically become measurable.

Sometimes, however, a goal can be specific, yet still not measurable. For instance, “Increase productivity at work by 41%”. How do you measure productivity? A better goal might be, “Complete three non-essential improvement projects each week”.

Good Goal

Increase website sales by 50% through email marketing.

Bad Goal

Sell more online.

#3 Achievable

The best goals straddle the line between impossibly challenging and boringly easy. While an easy goal holds no excitement (more on that later), an overly-difficult goal plans for failure. Do not choose a goal you are 100% certain you can accomplish, but at the same time do not choose a goal you are 100% certain that you can not accomplish.

Also, remember that we all have different levels of understanding and experience, so what is attainable for you may be impossible for someone else and vise-versa.

Good Goal

Bicycle a complete century.*

Bad Goal

Skin dive to the bottom of the Mariana Trench.

*See number six for further improvements on this goal.

#4 Time Bound

Managers and professors give you deadlines for a reason… they work. When something has a deadline, we are exponentially more likely to complete it (and probably within 24 hours of the cutoff point).

With a normal goal, you are forced to choose daily between success today and success “tomorrow”. Placing a time restriction changes the question. Now you are forced to make the much more powerful choice between success today and failure tomorrow. Is it any surprise that deadlines work?

Good Goal

Before the week is over, finish an article on goal design.

Bad Goal

Write an article on goal design.

#5 Exciting

It may seem obvious, but we, as humans, are drawn to activities we enjoy and repelled from activities we dislike. While this tendency can be (and often must be) overcome, complete efficiency can only be achieved when we find a way to make a goal exciting.

If you are unable to make a goal exciting, you really only have three choices:

  1. Do it immediately.
  2. Seriously reconsider whether the goal is necessary.
  3. Set an extremely strict deadline and hope you keep it.

Good Goal

Double vegetable intake.

Bad Goal

Find and use fast, tasty recipes that will double vegetable intake.

#6 Actionable

If a goal is too large, simply deciding where to start can be overwhelming. When put into practice, however, this presents a problem. Often, the large goals are the most important: starting a company, reading one thousand books, or founding a nation are undeniably somewhat large goals, yet all are quite important.

Thankfully, there is a solution. Actionable steps.

By breaking a large goal into multiple smaller goals, you can avoid the pitfalls normally present in large goals and maintain forward momentum.

Good Goal

Find a good training program, practice regularly, then bicycle a century.

Bad Goal

Bicycle a century.

Call To Action

Rather than move on to the next part of your day and forget all about these six secrets of effective goals, take the next three minutes to craft one single goal that includes all six of these attributes.

Then, go out and do it!

How To Get Motivated – On Getting Fired Up When You Don’t Feel Like It

It’s time to stop talking the rhetoric about wanting to be successful and motivated.

For most of you, it’s only talk!

Every man on this planet has problems, but most don’t actually want to solve their problems.

If you’ve been living in constant brain fog your entire life and want to make a change out of desperation or inspiration, I’ll tell you everything you need to know on how to get motivated.

In fact, I will strip away every single excuse you have until there are absolutely zero left!


1. Have high expectations

How To Get Motivated Set High Expectations And Goals

Not average expectations.

In reality, it’s easy to procrastinate when every single one of your goals is bite-sized, and you assume failure from the start. Most of you get caught into the trap of worrying endlessly about how you’ll get to the future. You leave the thought of actually focusing on the future up to later imagination. It doesn’t even exist. Start focusing on the big picture, and stop worrying so much about how you’ll get there.

Dream and think bigger. Set your goals to ones that would take two or three lifetimes to accomplish. When you complete your small goals in life, you have will much, much larger ones leftover waiting for you. You honestly don’t need a roadmap to life with all the planned stops, turns, and detours. You simply need to have a destination in mind.

Just imagine a man who decides he needs to lose a few pounds. He pushes himself into the gym and works out for a full day. He then decides to reward himself with a chocolate bar for his efforts in accomplishing a relatively small goal. He can repeat the process day in and day out, only to find he has managed to lose no weight at all. In the grand scheme of things, he put instant gratification over his ultimate goals in life because he wasn’t focused on the big picture.

If he had aimed to lose 20 pounds in a year, he would have most likely lost 10, perhaps 20 lbs, had he avoided instant gratification. If he had set his eyes on losing 200 lbs, you can bet he’d end up losing 20 pounds within the first month! Our goals determine how hard we work towards what we want in life and ultimately, what we actually accomplish.

Now, how many people in this world want to be millionaires? Almost everyone. Yet, very few are willing to write down a goal of making $100 Million within ten years. Why is that? Most simply refuse to believe they would ever be capable of doing such things without winning the lottery first. Most deem it impossible or beyond comprehension! It’s that kind of thinking that sets the tone for lack of motivation and establishes the reality of failure. If you can’t convince yourself that you are worthy of reaching a challenging goal, then your motivation will ultimately suffer, and in the end, you will never achieve it.

In other words, start trusting yourself and your goals. Self-doubt is what destroys motivation. It’s the fear of future failure that prevents average men from becoming high-performance all-stars.


2. Take action and form great habits.

Take Action How To Get Motivated For Any Goal

When you form good habits, success becomes a self-fulfilling prophecy.

Good habits do not include things like browsing Facebook, Twitter, going to the bar with friends, watching funny videos, and so on. In reality, they are a drain on your motivation because they give you an excuse to rely on.

The truth is, you must cut all the time-sucking things out of your life that aren’t a part of your goals. All of them! Remember, you are the average of the five people you spend the most time around. If you hang out with losers at the bar every night, complaining about work, I can assure you will be a bum the rest of your life! Motivated, high-performance people don’t let distractions get in the way of their goals. In reality, friends and family are distractions. It’s a concept most refuse to accept, but it’s the truth. Surround yourself with mentors instead, more on this later.

Ultimately, you’re going to force yourself to do it, or you aren’t! No one else in the world can make the decision or determine what habits you set for yourself, only you can.


3. Make yourself accountable.

How To Get Motivated Be Accountable

Your bum friends aren’t going to hold you accountable. Period!

I don’t care how close they are to you or how long you’ve known them for. 99% of the time they don’t want to see you succeed because when you do, they get left behind. The truth is, they’d much rather see you stay on their level at the bottom, as it is far easier for them to not compete with you.

People embrace comfort in life; they don’t like change. In fact, they fear it! You see this in politics all the time when people are stuck to their own points of view. They could be completely illogical, but if their comfortable, they will refuse to accept reality and truth. It’s a good reason as to why most people don’t venture off and start a business these days. They are deathly of afraid of doing it because they will no longer live a life of comfort, but rather a life of constant chaos.

If there’s no one to keep you in check when it comes to accomplishing your goals, and you can’t hold yourself accountable, then what motivation do you have to complete them? None! There’s no penalty, no humiliation, only self-misery, and depression. If that’s the case with you, then by all means, seek out mentors. Join a club or group where you can get introduced to other high-performance people. They will force you to accomplish your goals and stay motivated through peer-pressure.

Imagine showing up to a group every week and explaining you could not do this or that because you were too lazy. After awhile you become an embarrassment and ultimately change out of desperation or inspiration. If everyone else around you is motivated and succeeding as they share their weekly stories, you’ll become less and less okay with accepting personal failure, procrastination, and laziness.


4. Remind yourself of your goals on a daily basis.

How To Get Motivated Reminder Of Goals

By that, I don’t mean in your head or mentally thinking about it. Instead, put them on a physical piece of paper using a pen. If you are really serious about it, write it down a giant-sized poster.

Place that poster or posted note on your front door or bathroom mirror. A place where you cannot avoid seeing it every single morning and night.

Within time you will be present with two choices:

It will become engrained in your brain, and you will be forced to get motivated and work towards it. Or, you will tear down the poster and realize that reaching a particular goal just wasn’t for you. Either way, you’re going to accept responsibility, or you’re going to refuse it. With a reminder that’s put in front of your face on a constant basis, the excuse of ignoring or forgetting about a goal vanishes. You must face it head on.


5. Smell the leather.

How To Get Motivated Smell The Leather

While it’s great to have colossal sized goals mentally, sometimes you need to see or touch them physically.

By that I mean, go to the Rolls Royce dealer and sit down in a car you cannot afford. Take a tour of a multi-million dollar home that cannot afford. It will help you to envision the future and solidify the belief of what you wish to achieve in life. Your motivation will be at an all high time. If you think money can’t buy happiness, well, you don’t know where to shop!

The truth is, hunger is what brings out the beasts and demons in men. If you have no reason to get motivated you surely won’t be motivated. A man who cannot put food on the table for his family will do everything in his power to feed them before night falls. His only choice in life is to succeed or watch his children starve. It’s a powerful motivator. In comparison, imagine a man who has a pantry full of food to serve at dinner time. He has no reason to hustle because in reality, he has become a fat, lazy cat with nothing left to work for.

It’s a good reason why so many high-performance people start off by joining expensive clubs and wearing suits they cannot afford. They prepare themselves for a life they wish to live in the future. The ones who charge it to their credit cards, stay hungry and motivated because they have no option left. It becomes do or die.

It’s amazing what happens when you start out a business on credit cards or through a loan out on your house. For most men, the motivation becomes forced, and there’s no other way around it. If being hungry, desperate and smelling the leather isn’t enough to get you eager and motivated, not much else will.


6. Pep talks and all the other feel good bullsh-t.

How To Get Motivated Pep Talks

While reading books, watching movies and attending seminars is in no way, shape, or form taking action, for some of you, a little pep talk will boost your non-existent motivation.

The truth is, there are a lot of speakers and gurus out there who’s life’s purpose and business, is to motivate and empower people. Unfortunately, that empowerment and motivational drive only lasts for a few weeks before it completely vanishes. You see it all the time when companies hire a sales guru to come in and fire up the sales team. The salesmen hustle hard for the first week or two after attending the presentation or seminar. Within a month, they have all returned to their old habits and reverted back to being sluggish selling snails.

In other words, all the pep talk bullsh-t doesn’t last! It may be a breakthrough for a lot of you men out there, but ultimately motivation is what gets you started, good habits are what keep you going.

If you sit around all day reading books, listening to podcasts or watching seminars, you’ll never take action. Knowledge, motivation, and willpower are worthless if you aren’t putting those things to good use!


7. Get passionate and follow it.

How To Get Motivation Follow Your Passion

Some of you aren’t passionate about anything. You may have virtually no hobbies or interests at all. If you want to know how to get motivated, you must be passionate about something first!

Even if you’re passionate about playing video games, just consider all the guys and gals on Youtube who share their gaming interest with others, and rake in millions of dollars every year doing it. Ultimately, your work should feel like a hobby, one where you love doing it daily because you can wake up every morning, roll out of bed, and already be motivated.

You won’t have to find a reason or excuse to do this or that. You will simply do it because it’s what you love to do.


8. Get your blood pumping.

How To Get Motivated Get Your Blood Pumping

Get off the couch, take a shower and exercise. If you aren’t motivated enough to go to the gym, walk outside, or better yet, take your dog with you on a long walk. Do something that gets your blood pumping or at the very least moving.

Anything risky will work, from the extremes of skydiving to simply stepping out of your comfort zone. Aim to do something you fear five times a day no matter how large or small. Within three or so months you feel motivated to accomplish anything.


9. Stop worrying so much and just make the sacrifices.

How To Get Motivated Stop Worrying About The Future

Danger is real; fear is only an illusion, a choice! If it doesn’t cost you limbs or lives, the choice should be an easy and quick one.

The truth is, it doesn’t matter if you try to accomplish something and it doesn’t work out. If you’re committed, ultimately it will work out. You can’t tell me that in 50 years, you will be unable to accomplish a goal in life if you stick with it. That’s 18,250 days, 438,000 hours or over 26 Million minutes of focus and work towards it.

Just about the only time you’ll ever fail to accomplish a goal, is when you share your self-doubt with others. The moment you do, it’s game over. You have already mentally told yourself, “this is going to fail.” Never do that!

I get that making sacrifices is bloody hard, but one way or another they must be made!


10. Quit being a wimp!

How To Get Motivated Stop Being A Wimp

We ALL have problems. Every single man, woman, and child. Your circumstances, background, and past don’t matter! They are all excuses, all of them! Period. Complaining never solved anything.

The only difference between champ and chump is “U!”

It doesn’t matter if your parents abused you, if you got fired from a job you loved, if your girlfriend just left you, if you’re dirt poor, and so on. You are the only person that can decide where you want to go in life. The only approval you need is your own. Not your families, brothers, sisters, friends, co-workers, etc.


11. Understand that a level of high-performance success isn’t for everyone!

How To Get Motivated For High Performance Success

Not everyone is motivated by the same things.

While money isn’t everything in life, it’s the only thing people actually keep track of. However, you must understand there’s a difference between your emotional and financial bank account in life.

I know some of you struggle to find motivation with things like going to the gym and working out, grooming yourself properly, talking to women, and so on. All of these stem from a manifestation of low self-esteem. You’ve got to focus on building up your emotional bank in life first and foremost.

If the things I mentioned above aren’t doing it for you, then perhaps you need to see a doctor or therapist. You’ve got bigger issues to work through that are standing in front of you and your goals.

Not all men are willing to put their past in the past, learn from their mistakes, accept that life’s not fair, and push forward. The motivated high-performance people of this world, do all the above. It’s what separates the losers from the winners.

Let’s face it; If you were motivated enough to read this, then you’re motivated enough to work towards your goals! Truthfully, you don’t even need to know how. You just need to f-cking do it!

Top 50 Best Self Help Books For Men – All Time Reads On All Facets Of Life

Most men trot through life with an empty emotional bank account.

Their self-esteem is non-existent, and their understanding of why remains a mystery only to themselves.

While self-help books are not a form of taking action, most offer a great deal of insight as to why you’re so f-cked up in life.

From popular psychology to human behavior, the mind and beyond, if you’re looking for inspiring reads by inspirational people, you’ve finally found them.

Only in this collection of self-help all-time reads, the focus isn’t on Zen; it’s about overcoming all the issues holding you back in life from being all that you can be. The truth is, Zen doesn’t pay the bills when you’re coughing up blood in the hospital. It takes money!

It’s a good reason as to why you’ll find business and personal finance reading material mixed in with the relationship, public speaking, self-esteem/confidence building, and time management books. In other words, these top 50 best self help books for men cover all facets of life!

If you’re looking for purely feel good and ego-stroking nonsense, you might as well write your d-mn own book. Because the only person more qualified at being a loser is you!


1. 7 Habits Of Highly Effective People By Stephen Covey

7 Habits Of Highly Effective People By Stephen Covey Best Self Help Books For Men


If you want to be effective, you must learn to do the things that highly effective people do. Take instruction from Stephen R. Covey, an effective leadership expert. He shows you how to become your most effective self with seven captivating principles, which include prioritizing and beginning with the end in mind.


2. As A Man Thinketh By James Allen

As A Man Thinketh By James Allen Best Self Help Books For Men


Even though it was originally written in 1902, the advice in Englishman James Allen’s book is still relevant for men today. Help yourself to this classic self-help book and let Allen show you that you hold the key that unlocks the door to your prosperity and that this key is in your mind. If you want to change your life, you must start by changing your thinking.


3. Awaken The Giant Within By Tony Robbins

Awaken The Giant Within By Tony Robbins Best Motivational Self Help Books For Men


Man up and seize control of your life with the help of an expert on performance and change! Tony Robbins advises you how to do this by specifically targeting the individual areas of your mind, emotions (yes, men are emotional beings also), body, and finances. He gives you easy, step-by-step techniques to effectively master your destiny.


4. Blink By Malcolm Gladwell

Blink By Malcolm Gladwell Best Self Help Books For Men To Read


Do you ever feel inadequate? Do you ever wonder the reason that other men succeed with little effort, but you can’t get ahead? You’re not alone. Malcolm Gladwell explains how you can think quickly and still make the best choices and decisions to succeed in life. The examples in his book are based on both the good and bad decisions of true and relatable characters.


5. Borrowing Brilliance By David Kord Murray

Borrowing Brilliance By David Kord Murray Best Self Help Books For Men


This book is a must-read for any entrepreneur. Murray, a former scientist, executive, inventor, and entrepreneur, will have you growing your business in no time. You’ll want to read his six steps for dealing with problems, borrowing and expanding on the ideas of others, and creating solutions to your problems. Steve Jobs and Sergey Brin are among the brilliant men used as examples in this book.


6. Business Adventures By John Brooks

Business Adventures By John Brooks Best Self Help Books For Men


Whether you are a new or seasoned business owner, you want your business to succeed. Learn from the highs and lows of corporate America; read the engaging histories of Ford Motor Company, General Electric, and more; and begin to create your own defining moments. This book has been praised by Bill Gates, so why not give it a read?


7. Getting Things Done By David Allen

Getting Things Done By David Allen Best Self Help Books For Men Of All Time


Men, it is time to be intentional and to live your life purposefully! This book is loaded with ideas from one of the world’s most well-known consultants. Increase your productivity by learning to relax, delegate, and achieve with Allen’s getting-things-done methods.


8. How To Be Rich By J Paul Getty

How To Be Rich By J Paul Getty Best Self Help Books For Men


Maybe you’re no longer just a college kid trying to pave the way for your life; you’re on the road to becoming a successful businessman. What’s next? Well, this book is for you. Billionaire J. Paul Getty shares his secrets and tells you what to do with your money once you have made it, so put down those get-rich-quick books by not-yet-rich people and win with your money by using Getty’s principles.


9. How To Stop Worrying And Start Living By Dale Carnegie

How To Stop Worrying And Start Living By Dale Carnegie Best Self Help Books For Men


Written in the 1940s by a former worry wort, this book’s principles can still help men today. Find out how Dale Carnegie learned to accept criticism, conquer worry and fatigue, and be himself; then, put those principles into practice for yourself in today’s fast-paced and self-centered society. Don’t worry; you’ll be happy you did.


10. How To Win Friends And Influence People By Dale Carnegie

How To Win Friends And Influence People By Dale Carnegie Best Self Help Books On Anxiety For Men


This version of Dale Carnegie’s classic has been revamped to make it easier for you to apply his principles in our modern era. This book is a great read for men that want to become more successful communicators and leaders as they learn to utilize all of the tools that the digital age has to offer.


11. Influence By Robert B Cialdini

Influence By Robert B Cialdini Best Self Help Books For Men


Are you a yes man? If so, that’s no good for your success! Your degree of success has much to do with your degree of influence over people. Read this book to begin unleashing your powers of persuasion. Once you are putting Robert Cialdini’s six universal truths into practice, you’ll have other men becoming your sycophants.


12. Lead The Field By Earl Nightingale

Lead The Field By Earl Nightingale All Time Best Self Help Books For Men


No matter what your niche in life is, you can apply Earl Nightingale’s 12 truths to become more successful in every niche of your life. The renowned radio host offers insightful stories and poignant lessons to help you develop your best self. It’s a man-eat-man world out there, but Nightingale submits that you can be successful without eating others alive.


13. Making A Good Brain Great By Daniel G Amen

Making A Good Brain Great By Daniel G Amen Best Self Help Books For Men


Science geeks will especially enjoy this very practical self-help book. It’s easy for men to equate strength with muscles and to forget that the brain is man’s greatest asset. It needs to be nourished and exercised, too. Dr. Amen uses his years of experience and research to help you get your brain in gear and enhance its capabilities.


14. Man’s Search For Meaning By Viktor E Frankl

Mans Search For Meaning By Viktor E Frankl Best Self Help Books For Men


Here’s one for the history buffs, but anyone can appreciate this motivational self-help book by Viktor Frankl, an Auschwitz survivor. If anyone had struggles to overcome, he did. A reading of his memoirs is sure to motivate you to find your own “will to meaning” and to overcome the daily struggles you experience on your journey to a greater you.


15. Meditations By Marcus Aurelius

Meditations By Marcus Aurelius Best Self Help Books For Men


Speaking of struggles, this book is perfect for those in a struggle to succeed. Strong men are born out of struggles, and Aurelius speaks of manlike behavior in the midst of his struggle to rule an empire. Honestly, who could better teach you to build your own proverbial empire than an emperor of Rome?


16. Outliers By Malcolm Gladwell

Outliers By Malcolm Gladwell Best Self Help Books For Men


Gladwell gets a bit more personal in this book than he did with Blink. He goes beyond determining how successful people think to discovering who they really are and what makes them different. A person’s backstory is often the key to his success. Uncover the intriguing secrets that have made famous individuals and certain demographics successful.


17. Release Your Brakes By James Newman

Release Your Brakes By James Newman Best Self Help Books For Men


Do you need help determining those things that are holding you back in life? Newman, owner and operator of PACE seminars, purposes to show you ways to tap into your unknown potential. Overcome your fears, step out of your comfort zone, and rid yourself of the extra baggage that is hindering you from achieving your fullest potential!


18. Rework By Jason Fried

Rework By Jason Fried Best Self Help Books For Men With Low Self Esteem


If you’re one of those men that is dissatisfied with following the status quo, this is your book. Jason Fried’s seemingly backward instruction isn’t typical of most business books. He takes a simple approach, which he claims produces fast results, to encourage you to succeed in your endeavors. In a nutshell, his advice is to keep things simple, to disregard competitors, and to actually get to work!


19. Rich Dad Poor Dad By Robert T Kiyosaki

Rich Dad Poor Dad By Robert T Kiyosaki Best Self Help Books For Men


Family men, listen up! This book is as practical for your kids as it is for you. Robert Kiyosaki explains how the fiscal philosophies of two men in his life affected his ideas about finances. Be prepared for common financial misconceptions to be debunked and to learn your responsibilities regarding your family’s financial security.


20. See You At The Top By Zig Ziglar

See You At The Top By Zig Ziglar All Time Best Self Help Books For Men


Zig Ziglar’s motivational classic emphasizes the necessity of focusing on the important things in life. The book includes faith topics and religious principles to teach you to form habits and to set goals in every area of your life. It also teaches the importance of meeting the needs of others to attain personal success.


21. The 10 Pillars Of Wealth By Alex Becker

The 10 Pillars Of Wealth By Alex Becker Best Self Help Books For Men


Learn how to make your money work for you and how to quit working for your money. Who doesn’t want to make money in his sleep? Alex Becker tackles the pillars or mindsets that effect financial wealth and shows you how to think the way that rich people do so that you can be the boss of your financial destiny.


22. The 33 Strategies Of War By Robert Greene

The 33 Strategies Of War By Robert Greene Best Self Help Books For Men


Fully loaded with historical accounts, this book analyzes the individual actions that have led to the success or demise of historical and current figures. Greene creatively relates military strategies of war to everyday life decisions so that you can conquer any conflict. Add this one to your reading list if you want to gain an upper hand and take charge of your life.


23. The 48 Laws Of Power By Robert Greene

The 48 Laws Of Power By Robert Greene Best Self Help Books For Men


What man doesn’t want to dominate in every facet of his life? Learn 48 practical laws for beginning your rise to power from Robert Greene’s riveting book. It gives you the ammunition you need to keep your reputation, to draw people to your side, and to dominate at furthering your causes. In addition to others, Greene uses the real-life examples of P.T. Barnum and Henry Kissinger as support.


24. The Alchemist By Paulo Coelho

The Alchemist By Paulo Coelho Best Self Help Books For Men


This fictional masterpiece is both entertaining and empowering. Don’t be put off that the main character is just a boy. Let the fable of Santiago encourage you to follow your dreams and inspire you in your search for your destiny. You’ll find subtle, motivational lessons sprinkled throughout the book, such as conquering fear, discerning truth, and living in the moment.


25. The Compound Effect By Darren Hardy

The Compound Effect By Darren Hardy Best Self Help Books For Men


Decisions, decisions. The premise of this book is that your life is determined by every minute decision that you make. Hardy explains the principles and decisions that have led to the accomplishments of many in the business world; however, the same principles can be applied to every area of life. Use this book as a manual to achieve the life that you desire.


26. The Definitive Book Of Body Language By Barbara Pease

The Definitive Book Of Body Language By Barbara Pease Best Self Help Books For Men


Do you ever have trouble reading people? Learning to read people’s body language is a huge step in personal growth and development. Allan and Barbara Pease teach you their skills for reading the body language of other people. Learn to tell if a person is lying and to use nonverbal communication to elicit the responses that you need from others.


27. The Easy Way To Control Alcohol By Allen Carr

The Easy Way To Control Alcohol By Allen Carr Best Self Help Books For Men On Ending Addictions


On a more serious note, you know the damage that alcoholism can cause. If you or someone you know struggles with alcohol addiction, you must read this book. Allen Carr continues his writings about addictions with this book about alcoholism. He destroys myths about alcoholism and explains the reasons that people drink. Finally, he gives instructions to be totally free from addiction.


28. The Four Agreements By Don Miguel Ruiz And Janet Mills

The Four Agreements By Don Miguel Ruiz And Janet Mills Best Self Help Books For Men


Speaking of freedom, consider this next book in our lineup. Filled with wisdom and based on the ancient Mexican culture, Toltec, it unveils false ideas that you are believing and allowing to stunt your personal growth. Furthermore, Ruiz promotes four agreements that counteract these false beliefs and that will enable you to be free to fulfill your dreams.


29. The Game By Neil Strauss

The Game By Neil Strauss Best Dating And Relationship Self Help Books For Men


Bachelors, this one is especially for you! This autobiography is based on a two-year period of the author’s life. Neil Strauss shares how he was able to seduce women as a pickup artist; however, the key is not a pickup line. The key is confidence, which is necessary to attract your desires in all realms of life. Read this book to develop a more confident you.


30. The Last Lecture By Randy Pausch

The Last Lecture By Randy Pausch Best Self Help Books For Guys


If you truly want to be challenged to the core, read this book, which goes beyond building wealth and success to leaving a legacy. According to Pausch, who was diagnosed with cancer prior to writing the book, “It’s not about how to achieve your dreams. It’s about how to lead your life.” With every eye-opening page, Pausch will have you realizing the value of time through thought-provoking wit and wisdom.


31. The Millionaire Fastlane By By Mj Demarco

The Millionaire Fastlane By By Mj Demarco Best Mens Self Help Books


This book is for men that want to live life in the fast lane. Why wait until you’re old and gray to enjoy life? Get your life in gear while you’re still young with DeMarco’s tips. According to him, mediocrity and the markets aren’t your friends. Find out how to accumulate wealth that lasts you a lifetime, not just in the end of your life.


32. The Millionaire Next Door By Thomas Stanley And William Danko

The Millionaire Next Door By Thomas Stanley And William Danko Best Self Help Books For Men


Believe it or not, most millionaires don’t drive a Ferrari or live in a mansion. In fact, you might unknowingly know a millionaire. This book pinpoints seven common factors that all millionaires and even wealthier individuals have in common. Put the seven factors into practice, and you could find yourself becoming the next millionaire.


33. The Power Of Habit By Charles Duhigg

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Take your business, life, and more to the next level once you find out the reasons that you habitually do the things you do. This book will show you how your habits are affecting you. Stop doing things that are holding you back; begin new habits that will produce success. Duhigg uses provocative stories to support his points and to help you incorporate positive habits in your life.


34. The Power Of Positive Thinking By Dr Norman Vincent Peale

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Maybe you know what you need to do to get what you want from life, but you struggle to actually do it. Dr. Peale helps you develop the initiative that you need to fulfill your ambitions. His book, which is written in a nearly hypnotic style, outlines ways that you can affirm your thoughts to effect positive change and relies on case studies to support its theories.


35. The Power Of Your Subconscious Mind By Joseph Murphy

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Once you change your way of thinking, the sky really is the limit, according to Dr. Joseph Murphy. Because personal relationships, business management, and financial security are all tackled in this book, no man is excluded from its practical and positive applications. If you’re man enough to get in touch with your subconscious mind, read on!


36. The Prophet By Kahlil Gibran

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For men interested in a great philosophical read, Kahlil Gibran’s poetic essays won’t disappoint. Gibran leaves no stone unturned; he offers inspiration for marriage and family life, health, law, death, and a number of other topics. This print also includes 12 of Gibran’s drawings, which will appeal to your inner boy. Seriously, if you are searching for enlightenment, you will find it in this book.


37. The Six Pillars Of Self Esteem By Nathaniel Branden

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This book is a somewhat technical read, but is a great read for men struggling with self-esteem issues. Dr. Branden offers six daily practices that are the groundwork for healthy self-esteem and provides practical advice for anyone in charge of caring for the self-esteem of others.


38. The Slight Edge By Jeff Olson

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Consider a new way of thinking with this book. It’s a way of thinking that will affect all other aspects of your life and choices that you make. This is not your typical self-help book, but it offers a good foundation for changing your way of thinking as you read other self-help books. Delve into its pages to learn more about “the ripple effect” and helping others.


39. The Strangest Secret By Earl Nightingale

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This Nightingale classic, considered to be one of the greatest motivational essays of all time, could be the kick in the rear that you need. The straightforward language pushes you to get busy accomplishing the tasks that your life has for you. In a world of entitlement, Nightingale impresses you to work hard to reach your own goals.


40. Thick Face Black Heart By Chu Chin Ning

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Next, we turn to ancient Chinese military philosophy. Chin-Ning Chu, an expert on business psychology, explains how to conquer your business and personal worlds by incorporating the strategies of the Chinese military. She combines these strategies with spiritual undertones to help you dominate in the realms of strategic thinking and successful living.


41. Think And Grow Rich By Napoleon Hill

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Follow the business model of Andrew Carnegie and unleash the secrets of making money. This book doesn’t just tell you what you need to do to become rich; it also explains in detail how to do it. Although the book primarily focuses on accumulating money, its lessons can be applied to every area in which you would like to be more successful.


42. What Every Body Is Saying By Joe Navarro

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What kind of non-verbal cues do you send to other people, such as a love interest or boss? You are probably not even aware of what you are doing, yet your silent communication can be either your greatest asset or anchor in life. Learn from a former FBI expert to speed read the actions and behaviors of others and to use that knowledge to your benefit as well.


43. Your First 100 Million By Dan Pena

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Finally, Daniel S. Pena, a self-made millionaire, uses his Quantum Leap Advantage model to teach you to become financially successful. He personally used this method to become wealthy and submits that it can work for you, too. He also discusses the importance of mentors as you follow his program. With a mentor and a passion to succeed, you will be on the road to achieving super success and perhaps your own Guthrie Castle.